Many of you may recognize these signs of knowing if your ex is lieing to you, but it is always good reading as a refresher.  I was reading the Yahoo news flashes and came across this article this morning about how to catch a liar. 

It is all good and well to be trying for you and your ex to get back together.  But if your ex is lieing to avoid conflict or is just too insane to know that the truth is better, then it is a good idea to have a checklist of points to follow.

After I list the signs to look for I will post the link to the actual article that I read.

1. How is the person speaking?
2. What is the person saying?
3. Is his/her face giving it away?
4. How is the person smiling?
5. Does the body language give away the story?
6. Is your subject behaving uncharacteristically?
7. Is the question simple or embarassing?

Follow the link for clarification of the 7 signs “How to Catch a Liar” by Reader’s Digest Magazine.

Know if he/she is lieing before you and your ex get back together.

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You can have a healthy relationship after emotional infidelity.

Whatever the case may be, one thing is for sure, you need to be able to recognize the traits of a healthy relationship.  You may want you and your ex to get back together, stop a divorce or work on healing a relationship after emotional or physical infidelity. 

Without the knowledge of what healthy relationships look like it will be hard to follow the patterns of living in one. 

I came across an article this morning written by Brett Blumenthal – Sheer Balance.  She states that there are 6 signs that suggest you’re in a healthy relationship. 

These are:

• Loyalty
• Respect
• Unconditionally there
• Trustworthy
• A Genuine Sounding Board
• Dependability

These 6 traits make a great checklist to stay on track to move your relationship forward in a healthy manner.

I am placing a link to her article here so that you can read more about the 6 signs of a healthy relationship.  I really enjoyed her article and I think you will too.

Click on link  6 Traits of a Healthy Relationship

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The 3 signs of emotional infidelity are obvious if you are looking for them.  Sexual infidelity is only a step away when your lover or spouse start to be emotionally intimate with another person.  A strong sexual bond between two people usually starts with the emotional ties they have developed between them.

Most people do not form other relationships thinking that they are going to be cheating on their lover.  It usually starts off innocent and develops into an emotional bond before they themselves are aware of it happening.  There are 3 signs of the beginning stages of emotional infidelity that I find universal. 

It starts off with teasing.  The innocent flirtation between friends can easily escalate to the beginnings of sexual chemistry.  Just think about it.  How did you start to bond and get to know your lover of your present relationship?  A flirtatious smile, a gesture or teasing that was so innocent.  This can happen with people you spend a lot of time with or see on a regular basis.  Some of the places that are common for relationships to develop are – the office, the gym, neighbors, and yes, the grocery store.

Teasing opens the door to “interest” bonding.  That leads us to the second sign, emotional disengagement.  Attraction in play creates a pathway of discovering likes and dislikes in each other’s personality and life.  Sharing is broadened from the flirtatious play to discussing what bothers or excites them in life.  Automatically one will start disengaging from the relationship they have at home.  You have found someone else to share common interests with or satisfy compassionate needs.  This can happen so quickly and it is easier to just go with the flow than to spend the time and energy to try to work something out.

The third sign to watch out for is secretive behavior.  Are phone calls behind closed doors?  Are text messages or emails being hidden every time you come around the corner?  Do defenses go up when simple questions are being asked?  How about just out right denial that there is even a new relationship/friendship developing?

If you recognize the symptoms of emotional infidelity in the early stages it will be easier to reverse the effects of the broken intimacy with your established lover or spouse.  If you let it go and just keep wondering if you are perceiving the situation correctly, then you may find it to be too late.  You may be the one who is wandering and going astray, or worse yet, you may be the lover or spouse that is being left behind empty handed.  Do yourself a favor.  When you recognize these 3 signs of emotional infidelity, turn your energies to the relationship that you have already spent time nurturing and developing, and give it a fresh start.

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